Make a Promise to Yourself

By Becca Lory, CAS When I was given the opportunity to write this blog, I thought to myself, “great, another blog by another adult with autism.” With so many fabulous blogs out there by autistics, why would anyone read mine? What would make this blog different? What would make people want to read my posts and, moreover, what would keep me writing them? I decided I would follow my inner author and wait for the writing gods to send me a muse. And man, did the idea come. One of the things I have worked on intently since my diagnosis five … [Read more...]

What Do Bees Have to Do with Autism?

By Megan Amodeo Bees are really extraordinary creatures. Sure they can sting you, but they also make honey. They buzz around pollinating flowers and fruits with tiny wings that shouldn't be able to support their body weight. They shouldn't be able to fly, but they do it every day. Bees also live in colonies. They work together to achieve a common goal. You might be thinking this seems like a bunch of random facts about bees. Shouldn't I be telling you something about autism? Funny you should ask. With spring hopefully just around the corner, … [Read more...]

Why Autism Gives Me the Strength to Fly!

By Megan Amodeo In just a few short days I will turn the chapter and enter year number 44 of my life. It has been 8 years since two of my three children were diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders. It has been 8 years since I was also deemed as an autistic mom, wife and woman. I started to think about all the things in my life that have changed or been altered by our autism diagnoses. I honestly felt a huge sense of relief the moment my daughters were diagnosed. That may sound strange to typical parents, but I have never been typical. I … [Read more...]

Dealing with Failure is a Learnable Life Skill

By Megan Amodeo Life can be beautiful and wonderful. Life can also be disappointing and frustrating. Many of us on the spectrum see life as black and white or right and wrong. There often isn't any room for those in between ‘gray’ areas of life. You either make the baseball team or you don't. You get a good grade on your term paper or you don't. These seem like clear cut outcomes. Unfortunately, everything in life is not always so literal. Even when things are very black and white, there is always a little bit of gray. Gray areas … [Read more...]

Finding Peace and Calm in a ‘Going Out’ Bag

By Megan Amodeo We all have certain objects, sayings, foods and routines that make us feel comfortable…our creature comforts. You may enjoy a warm blanket, a pair of fuzzy slippers and a good cup of hot cocoa on a winter day. A long hot bubble bath, with no kiddos banging on the door, is a necessary creature comfort for many of us moms. Creature comforts bring to mind favorite foods. I love a cup of chili on a cold rainy day. I'm sure we can all make a list of the things that make us feel happy and comfortable. My family goes on one … [Read more...]

What Worries You When Your Child Reaches a New Milestone?

Parents often ask with concern why when their child has made a gain of some kind in development do they seem to reverse in others? As an Autistic I can tell you that many times when reaching a new milestone, we may revert to a previous special interest or sensory seeking behaviour for comfort and reassurance. There's nothing wrong with that. What we tend to notice more is the regression Autistic's display if there has been a traumatic experience. But any progress is still a change even if it is good, so a step back in another area … [Read more...]

Advantages and Disadvantages of a ‘Tape Recorder’ Mind

By Megan Amodeo I have always been on the autism spectrum. Two of my three daughters have always been on the autism spectrum. By no means do I claim to be an expert in all things autism, but I do have a good sample size in my own home which provides me with a unique window into the minds of autistics. The 'Tape Recorder' Effect One characteristic of autism is what I like to refer to as the tape recorder effect. Hopefully everyone still remembers what a tape recorder is used for and its functions (Hey, I was born in the 70's!). A tape … [Read more...]

Why Do I Love the Things I Do?

By Lydia Wayman Advocacy and Questions Autism advocacy is all about questions – either the ones people ask about their own kids or the issues nobody seems to realize they are getting all wrong. I have a lot of the answers memorized, so often, I can just spout it off verbally. If it’s something I haven’t worked through yet, I usually have to spend some time and then work it out on the keyboard. I might ask that person if I can get their email address and get back to them on it. Why do you freeze in place and stare at the shelves in the … [Read more...]

Do People Really Believe You Can Outgrow Autism?

It occurred to me suddenly the other day, my daughters aren't babies anymore. I know this may sound ridiculous. Of course I know the ages of my own children. I have two teenagers and a tween. As we near the middle of summer and I start to ponder the back to school schedule, I realize now that all my daughters will be in junior high or high school. Wow, I blinked and the grade school years are just memories and collected art projects. In only four short years my oldest will be ready for college, or whatever post school path she chooses to … [Read more...]

Why is Executive Functioning so Hard?

By Lydia Wayman Like most kids on the spectrum, I had major challenges with executive functioning. I left things everywhere. I could do my homework on my own without a problem, but I couldn't keep the assignment book up to date, so I'd get full credit on the paper and then miss points for writing the wrong due date. And if asked to "clean up," I… didn't. As I got older, I had trouble remembering appointments, keeping track of paperwork, and working with money. I didn’t know why I had so much trouble--I was really working hard and my … [Read more...]