The Danger of Yes

By Becca Lory, CAS One of the biggest myths of autism is that we lack empathy. It is quite simply untrue. In fact, I would dare to say that most of us are over-empathizers. We tend to absorb the mood and energy of the people around us. This is intensified ten-fold with people we care about. When you put the over empathizing together with our social blindness, you end up with a grade A people pleaser who doesn’t know how to say no. Warning spectrumites, this combination is lethal! I know, saying no is hard. Moreover, knowing when to say no … [Read more...]

Make a Promise to Yourself

By Becca Lory, CAS When I was given the opportunity to write this blog, I thought to myself, “great, another blog by another adult with autism.” With so many fabulous blogs out there by autistics, why would anyone read mine? What would make this blog different? What would make people want to read my posts and, moreover, what would keep me writing them? I decided I would follow my inner author and wait for the writing gods to send me a muse. And man, did the idea come. One of the things I have worked on intently since my diagnosis five … [Read more...]

How Can You Help with One of Our Comorbid Conditions?

By Rochelle Johnson Everything I do—every thought, feeling, action, compulsion, achievement, and failure—comes from an autistic lens. Why? Because it’s who I am. There are many things I can share from the lens of autism but today I want to focus on comorbid conditions. Comorbidity in terms of being autistic means that we can have disorders that co-occur with our autism. For some it’s an intellectual disability, significant speech articulation issues, or mobility issues. But by far the most common, as far as I understand it, is that of mood … [Read more...]

My Life-changing Second Awakening of Truth

By Rochelle Johnson The air around me is suddenly crisp and clear and real and natural. I can taste it anew. Taste it in a way I don’t think I ever have before. Every drop of morning dew and a blade of grass, each little squawk of birdsong, is fresh and new and more real than it has ever been. I’ve undergone an awakening. An awakening of sorts that is so incredibly momentous that it is so almost impossible to put it into words. And yet, there is a word for it, there is even a word for the time of life I am in, there is even a sentence to … [Read more...]

10 Awesome Autistic Authors and Their Stories

Here's a round up of some wonderful autistic authors...the books they've written and the stories they've told! If you didn't catch their interviews the first time around, make sure you take a few minutes to click and read. You'll leave inspired...plus I'm confident you'll find some great books to add to your wish list. Children's Books Colin Eldred-Cohen Colin puts his creative and active mind towards storytelling. The Fire Truck Who Got Lost is his first children's book. It certainly won't be his last! Darius Brown Darius is an … [Read more...]

Finding Friendship in the Flub-ups

By Lydia Wayman Every year, I look forward to the OCALICON autism conference in Ohio. The three days are the one time I get to be with my autistic friends who share my passion for advocating. It's an absolute whirlwind from start to finish. Teachers, therapists, and family members come to OCALICON to learn better ways to improve our lives. There are about a dozen autistic adults who attend, and since most of us are good friends, we tend to team up for presentations in different groupings every year. This year was extra special. I … [Read more...]

Autistic Reflections: What Your Mirror Can’t Teach You

By Lydia Wayman I think a lot of the lack of understanding we have about each other comes down to the fact that most people judge the whole world on the basis of their own individual experiences. Many people interpret and criticize others' behaviors, needs, quirks, and struggles from the perspective of their own minds, their own bodies, and their own lives. There are so many misconceptions about autism and autistic people, and many of them are based on these perspectives that differ radically from our own. To be on the autism spectrum is to … [Read more...]

The Remarkable Courage of “Being Seen”

Anlor Davin is an autistic French woman and Zen student. Medication opened the door for friendships, purpose and self-discoveries that have helped her thrive. This fall she will be leading a monthly meditation group in San Rafael, California to help others on the spectrum find their Zen. Anlor has just released the story of her life in Being Seen, Memoir of an Autistic Mother, Immigrant, and Zen Student. Tell us about your book, Being Seen. The book is my memoir, about me a French woman with autism struggling not only to be seen, but to … [Read more...]

Mito and the Monster Under My Hospital Bed

Mito… a progressive disease that affects almost every part of my body in some way. In fact, it's almost certain that whatever the genetic error that has caused my mito is responsible for my autism as well, as autism is pretty common in mito. Suffice to say that I've had more than a few hospital stays--in the past four years, I've had somewhere around 30 admissions and many more trips to the ER. I have written and spoken at conferences and with individuals about medical advocacy and how to do what you can to make sure you are adequately … [Read more...]

A Golden End to the Misleading Puzzle Piece

By Rochelle Johnson The puzzle piece is ubiquitous. Just about everywhere you look in the autism world you see representations of it. Whether it’s a Facebook page, a support group, or a website so many people like to use it in some form or another to represent autism. The Puzzle piece. It’s everywhere. Personally I don’t like it. There are a number of reasons I don’t but mostly I think it sees me as passive not active. The puzzle piece has negative connotations that I don’t like, it doesn't represent me as an equal and conveys the message … [Read more...]