Aspergers Syndrome and the ‘Can’t Love’ Myth

I don’t need flowers, candy, cards or a special day to know that I am loved, especially by my son with Aspergers Syndrome. There’s a myth that people with autism can’t show love. But they can. You just have to notice because it won’t be expressed in ways you might expect. It may be subtle but it’s there and it shines brightly when you pay close attention. During his high school years, my son was on a class trip. We were encouraged to send notes, letters, and cards of encouragement while the he was away. He must have been 14 or 15 at the … [Read more...]

How to Help Your Autistic Child Build Better Relationships

By Jennifer Palmiotto, Psy. D., LMFT Host of Love & Autism We are inundated with the need to plan for just about everything in our lives. Expectant mothers create elaborate birth plans. New parents begin planning for their child’s future by saving for college. We plan just about everything, from disaster to our daily schedule. And of course, we plan for our demise by creating a will and trusts that will protect our loved ones even in our passing. All of this planning is related to our strong desires to create happiness and to help our … [Read more...]

A Message of Hope: One Young Man’s Views on Love and Autism

By Jenny Palmiotto, Psy D Two nights ago, a mother and her 13-year-old son, David, had one of those surprisingly delightful conversations. One in which his parent felt validated that her efforts to help her child grow are paying off.  He is becoming a man. She has helped guide him to be warm, kind, tender, and hopeful. In this moment with David, the conversation turned to the topic of soulmates. The timing seemed right so mom inquired about what his soulmate might look like. She figured his answer would about what physical traits he’d … [Read more...]