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Heartfelt Appreciation from an Aspie

October 29, 2013 By Jodi Murphy 2 Comments

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You think they don’t listen. But they do. You think they don’t understand your parenting. But they do. You think they can’t love you the way a neurotypical child loves. But they can. You just have to notice because it won’t be expressed in ways you might expect. It may be subtle but it’s there and it speaks loudly when you pay close attention.

If I can recall correctly, Jonathan was on a school trip and we were encouraged to send notes, letters, and cards of encouragement while the class was away. He must have been 14 or 15 at the time. So Aspergers and teenager, where the common form of communication was a few grunts that could be interpreted as a favorable or unfavorable response depending upon the ‘conversation.’ Not one for writing because the physical act of writing was difficult and, well, he was an Aspie teenager, we were surprised to receive a letter from him. I’m sure it was an assignment, but he’s charmed his way out of classwork before, so he must have wanted to do it. Assignment or not,  it was what he wrote that mattered…Dear Mom and Dad:

I want to thank you for your letters. I know that sometimes we have our rough edges but we always work through them. I just wanted you to know that, believe it or not, I’m proud to be your son and I love you both even if you barely see me. You always encourage me and push me to my goals even though I give up too easy. So to sum up this letter, I just want to say thank you for everything cause I’ll probably never say it out loud.

P.S. I will continue to do my best.

No hyperbole or unnecessary pleasantries. A touch of jocularity. Yes, that’s my Jonathan and he loves and appreciates us. And it’s okay if he never says it out loud.

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About Jodi Murphy

Jodi Murphy is the founder of Geek Club Books, a registered nonprofit committed to creating a world where autistic individuals are fully accepted, valued and have a voice. Her priority is bringing autistic individuals creative and leadership opportunities that are meaningful, empowering and support their advocacy. She works with a creative autistic team to produce pop culture-based autism awareness education that is innovative, engaging, positive and opens hearts and minds to a new way of thinking about autism. Sign up for Geek Club Books mailing list for free apps, resource guides, curriculum, audio stories and more: https://geekclubbooks.com/autism-bundle.

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  1. McNall Mason says

    October 30, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    YES! I remember feeling so frustrated with Max because he didn’t show love and affection (like a NT kid). I wanted him to hug me and tell me he loved me and all the things his brother had done at a similar age… and then one day a light bulb went off in my head… and I changed my perception of love.

    Max would sometimes climb up on my bed with me and “hang out”, draw pictures, just be there with me playing with his cars… I noticed over time that Max didn’t interact with folks unless HE wanted to and when I looked at the overall picture, I realized that him just hanging out with me was his expression of love.

    My view of how love gets expressed has permanently changed thanks to Max… and that’s one of the beautiful things about having a kid with autism.

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    • Jodi Murphy says

      October 30, 2013 at 4:04 pm

      I agree! Jonathan has taught me to be so much more open to different forms of expression and to let go of my preconceived notions. He’s freed me and I am forever grateful 🙂 Thank you for sharing!

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